Tweekly: Independent
Hello people, I'm
back with Tweekly. Not sure do anyone missed this column as much as I do, because it’s
the only platform that I could really voice out my thoughts. I wanted to do a
vlog, but I feel that I might be talking a little too much on those weird logic, so I guess typing
is alright. (Perhaps the next Tweekly)
Okay, yes today's
topic is Independent. I actually shared to my friends many times on, how I'm being
forced to be independent. Thanks to my parents, but somehow I didn't really
hate them for that. Since young, they have taught us how to be independent, and I'm
grateful for that, really. Because sometimes, I see how my friends are so
financially dependent on their parents, I feel that, my parents really taught
us right.
Since young, we
always head to their store and see how hard they work, especially my dad. Then,
my parents own a store at the void deck, totally no air-con, and near the hot
sun, almost everyday because it’s Singapore. My dad help people to fix their
shoes, like those elderly who always under the block, yes, that's dad then. We
hardly see our parents often, because they are always working hard for us, and they
started owning a shop since 1995, yes the year I was born. So ever since young, we don't get to see our parents more than 10hours a week, we only see them
when.... they drive home, and before we head to bed. So I guess that when we
become more independent and somehow aware of money, how important it is. (P.s/
just a side track, my maid used to bribe us with money to buy food, so she can
call on the phone, hahas)
As we grow older,
like sec 2, my parents will tell us to work for them. I worked for them like 6
days a week, taking care of a small store, with meals provided, and getting
paid after 2 months. Sounds like a good deal uh? Yes, a good deal for my
parents and not me. Because after that 2 months, they paid me and said,
"Okay, now u start earning, you need to pay for your own textbooks. Also,
CNY you should give ah ma and parents some money." Yes, this is where all
the con artist appears in my life. I ended up with nothing much, but now I
think back, I'm actually quite grateful how they teach us to give back, when we are always receive our allowances. So yes, till today, we always give my parents some
"allowance" before CNY. Some of my friends always feel I'm dumb, and
find it weird, but this is how we grow up as an independent adult.
Currently, I'm
wearing braces and my parents paid for almost everything, including the monthly
bill which I promised to pay but unable due to my itchy mouth that kept on
eating :( But I actually calculated the sum and deposit it inside my bank. I planned my future's financial ability, cause I don't want to rely on my parents that
much, since I'm the youngest and obviously when I could become financially
independent, they can retire earlier. Having a plan to pay off my surgery, and
I had to pay for my uni fee which comes to a point where my friends will ask.
"Why don't
study full-time uni?"
Answer is simply,
because I can't, and won't want to. Firstly, I couldn't get into NUS, NTU or
maybe SMU, which is why I couldn't tell my parents to pay for my university,
because I could pay for my own if my sisters can. I mean, everyone has been
telling me, "it's your last school life, you should enjoy." You know
what, I want to enjoy it too, I want to have fun and just study which doesn't
even need to stress myself out so much. But my parents already pushed both my
sisters to fly; I couldn't find a reason not to fly too, when they could at my
age then.
I finding positive
reasons of why I need to be independent, like "Oh, because I believe
working hard now, I could enjoy life so much more later." Also, telling
myself it will be worth it, because it’s not life becoming easier, but I become
stronger. Who would want to be so mature at a young age when you could have
fun? Who would want financially tied up when you could actually open that
golden mouth and ask your parents? Now I have to say that after 20 years, my
parents are in the middle-income group, and of course they could support us to
study university. But, I guess they want us to grow independent and be better
than others. Now, I'm not saying those who always get money from their parents
are useless, but its different family education. My parents will never give us
pocket money during holidays; if you want money, earn it. They drill it into
us, and this is how we grow.
Yes, some people
would say, your parents who give birth to you should be responsible for all expense, and
when they aged you do the same thing. But I beg to diff. How many parents
actually would really receive back what they give? They will treat you 100%, but when you pay
back, it will only be 50%, because you will have your own family then. You will
have another responsibility to carry. Why not give back when you could, when
you could fly on your own? Must you really need to wait for a certain age, till
you really could fly, could form another family then you pay back?
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